I m Not a Mind Reader

Author: Marty Babits
Publisher: Health Communications, Inc.
ISBN: 0757318347
Format: PDF, Kindle
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Chocolates are fine and flowers rarely disappoint, but for relationships on the rocks, nothing says, 'I love you' like the promise of renewal. In I'm Not a Mind Reader, Babits reveals that too often, even the smartest people have difficulty communicating, and we've learned over the years that love isn't enough to repair the normal wear and tear that occurs in relationships. So, what can couples do when even love itself fails? Babits lays out a totally unique blueprint for renewal in I'm Not a Mind Reader, explaining that every message from one partner to another can be considered in terms of three separate dimensions: The surface level—this is the literal meaning of what partners say to one another The emotional subtext of the message—its emotional undertone The third dimension—evaluating the first two and comparing them with the goal of creating emotional safety within the dialogue Armed with this formula, whatever needs to be better understood, resolved, expanded or modified in the relationship can be addressed and communication brings coherence and connection. The person who practices three-dimensional communication lives in full and vibrant color compared with seeing everything in black and white. This new method is vivid and textured; it promotes the capacity to negotiate differences, to clarify misunderstandings, to heal confusions, and to reinvigorate passion and trust.

Power of the Middle Ground

Author: Marty Babits
Publisher: Prometheus Books
ISBN: 1615922822
Format: PDF, Docs
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Foreword by Dr. Ronald Taffel, Executive Director of the Institute for Contemporary PsychotherapyAccording to couples therapist and educator Babits, the 'middle ground' is the place where neither partner dominates, each approaches problems productively, and love and compassion come alive. His realistic directions on reaching the middle ground include seeing issues from the other's point of view, emphasizing the positive, and developing patience. It would be most beneficial, he notes, if both partners practiced the steps ... together. But even if just one of them uses this book as a tool for introspection, the relationship - whether straight or gay - should greatly improve.... Recommended. -LIBRARY JOURNALAn easy-to-read self-help book with many clinical vignettes and couple-strengthening exercises.... I would recommend the book quite highly, especially to couples who are at the end of their patience with the relationship. I would also recommend the book to any clinician who works with couples to help them to develop a more positive stance in their treatment.- PAULA F. EAGLE, MD, Associate Clinical Professor of Psychiatry, Columbia University College of Physicians and SurgeonsThe Power of the Middle Ground explains-as no other self-help book does-why and how the inherent difficulties entailed in the change process itself are daunting. Author Marty Babits, a seasoned couples therapist and educator, explains strategies and provides tips for grappling successfully with the challenges that change presents. This key aspect of working through relationship difficulties has, until now, been given short shrift in the popular and academic literature. Despite the central place of divorce in our culture, he teaches couples how to achieve a much greater impact in solving difficult interpersonal problems than is often thought possible.Babits helps couples envision a place that brings their potential for love and compassion alive. This place, which neither partner can dominate and in which each learns to approach problems productively, he calls the middle ground. Through a series of exercises, he equips couples to appreciate and actualize what is positive and possible in their relationship.This encouraging, yet realistic book empowers partners to negotiate differences, emphasize the positive, see issues from each other's point of view, defuse anger, and, as a result, rekindle warmth and love.Marty Babits, LCSW, BCD (New York, NY), is a psychotherapist in private practice and a member of the Executive Supervisory Committee of FACTS (the Family and Couples Treatment Service) of the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy.

The Power of the Middle Ground

Author: Marty Babits
Publisher:
ISBN: 9781591026624
Format: PDF
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Teaches mindful optimism, a function of being alive and responsive to real possibilities for positive change. This encouraging, yet realistic book will empower partners to negotiate differences, emphasize the positive, see issues from each others point of view, defuse anger and, as a result, rekindle warmth and love.

Conscious Communications

Author: Mary Shores
Publisher: Hay House, Inc
ISBN: 1401952143
Format: PDF, ePub, Docs
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I can’t . . . I’m not good enough . . . I’ll never find what I want . . .

How often do you consider the strain these negative and limiting statements have on your mind, choices, and life? The persistent messages you repeat can frame your thoughts and trap you in a mind-set that can be difficult to break. Whether you realize it or not, the words you use are the architects of your life.

After years of personal experience and research, entrepreneur and communications specialist Mary Shores realized that there is a life-changing theme persistent throughout ancient traditions and spiritual foundations that is also supported by scientific professionals. They all agree on one recurring truth: Words have the power to create and transform.

Armed with this knowledge, Mary created easy-to-follow, step-by-step practices to teach you how to launch yourself to the next level.

  • Discover the 3 pillars of transformation: focus, beliefs, and taking action
  • Break through your barriers
  • Learn the power of choosing moment to moment how you portray yourself in the world
  • Set goals to inspire your brain and body to campaign for success
  • Create your own customized action plan

Conscious Communications is your guide to creating a life in alignment with your dreams and desires. With thoroughly tested exercises, research, advice, and personal stories, you will begin to experience the tremendous impact of words and how to utilize the right ones to unleash and unlock the power to create a new reality.


The Five Love Languages

Author: Gary Chapman
Publisher: Northfield Press
ISBN: 9788186775097
Format: PDF, ePub, Docs
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Explores the all-important languages of love, helping each partner discover which actions are interpreted by the other as loving and affirming, and which as indifferent and demeaning. With study guide.

The Shallows What the Internet Is Doing to Our Brains

Author: Nicholas Carr
Publisher: W. W. Norton & Company
ISBN: 9780393079364
Format: PDF, ePub, Docs
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Finalist for the 2011 Pulitzer Prize in General Nonfiction: “Nicholas Carr has written a Silent Spring for the literary mind.”—Michael Agger, Slate “Is Google making us stupid?” When Nicholas Carr posed that question, in a celebrated Atlantic Monthly cover story, he tapped into a well of anxiety about how the Internet is changing us. He also crystallized one of the most important debates of our time: As we enjoy the Net’s bounties, are we sacrificing our ability to read and think deeply? Now, Carr expands his argument into the most compelling exploration of the Internet’s intellectual and cultural consequences yet published. As he describes how human thought has been shaped through the centuries by “tools of the mind”—from the alphabet to maps, to the printing press, the clock, and the computer—Carr interweaves a fascinating account of recent discoveries in neuroscience by such pioneers as Michael Merzenich and Eric Kandel. Our brains, the historical and scientific evidence reveals, change in response to our experiences. The technologies we use to find, store, and share information can literally reroute our neural pathways. Building on the insights of thinkers from Plato to McLuhan, Carr makes a convincing case that every information technology carries an intellectual ethic—a set of assumptions about the nature of knowledge and intelligence. He explains how the printed book served to focus our attention, promoting deep and creative thought. In stark contrast, the Internet encourages the rapid, distracted sampling of small bits of information from many sources. Its ethic is that of the industrialist, an ethic of speed and efficiency, of optimized production and consumption—and now the Net is remaking us in its own image. We are becoming ever more adept at scanning and skimming, but what we are losing is our capacity for concentration, contemplation, and reflection. Part intellectual history, part popular science, and part cultural criticism, The Shallows sparkles with memorable vignettes—Friedrich Nietzsche wrestling with a typewriter, Sigmund Freud dissecting the brains of sea creatures, Nathaniel Hawthorne contemplating the thunderous approach of a steam locomotive—even as it plumbs profound questions about the state of our modern psyche. This is a book that will forever alter the way we think about media and our minds.

The Four Agreements

Author: Don Miguel Ruiz
Publisher: Amber-Allen Publishing
ISBN: 1934408018
Format: PDF, Mobi
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Bestselling author don Miguel Ruiz reveals the source of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering. Based on ancient Toltec wisdom, The Four Agreements offer a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform our lives to a new experience of freedom, true happiness, and love. • A New York Times bestseller for over 7 years • Over 5.2 million copies sold in the U.S. • Translated into 38 languages worldwide Don Miguel Ruiz’s book is a roadmap to enlightenment and freedom.” — Deepak Chopra, Author, The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success “An inspiring book with many great lessons . . .” — Wayne Dyer, Author, Real Magic “In the tradition of Castaneda, Ruiz distills essential Toltec wisdom, expressing with clarity and impeccability what it means for men and women to live as peaceful warriors in the modern world.” — Dan Millman, Author, Way of the Peaceful Warrior

Attached

Author: Amir Levine
Publisher: Penguin
ISBN: 9781101475164
Format: PDF
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Is there a science to love? In this groundbreaking book, psychiatrist and neuroscientist Amir Levine and psychologist Rachel S. F. Heller reveal how an understanding of attachment theory-the most advanced relationship science in existence today-can help us find and sustain love. Attachment theory forms the basis for many bestselling books on the parent/child relationship, but there has yet to be an accessible guide to what this fascinating science has to tell us about adult romantic relationships-until now. Attachment theory owes its inception to British psychologist and psychoanalyst John Bowlby, who in the 1950s examined the tremendous impact that our early relationships with our parents or caregivers has on the people we become. Also central to attachment theory is the discovery that our need to be in a close relationship with one or more individuals is embedded in our genes. In Attached, Levine and Heller trace how these evolutionary influences continue to shape who we are in our relationships today. According to attachment theory, every person behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways: *ANXIOUS people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back. *AVOIDANT people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness. *SECURE people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving. Attached guides readers in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mates) follow. It also offers readers a wealth of advice on how to navigate their relationships more wisely given their attachment style and that of their partner. An insightful look at the science behind love, Attached offers readers a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections.

Reclaiming Conversation

Author: Sherry Turkle
Publisher: Penguin
ISBN: 0143109790
Format: PDF, ePub, Docs
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Preeminent author and researcher Sherry Turkle has been studying digital culture for over thirty years. Long an enthusiast for its possibilities, here she investigates a troubling consequence: that we have stopped having face-to-face conversation in favour of technological connections such as texts or emails. Based on five years of research and interviews in homes, schools and the workplace, Turkle argues here that we now have a better understanding of this phenomenon, and that going forward, it's time we reclaim conversation, the most human thing that we do.